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Internal vs. External Processing and how it can change your relationship!

November 05, 2022 • Alyssa & Steve McMasters • Season 1 • Episode 3

Everyone processes information differently. Some people are internal processors and need time to intrinsically think about a conversation before they are able to communicate their thoughts and feelings. Others are external processors and need to talk out their thoughts and feelings in real time in order to process a conversation.

When there is a disconnect between your processing style and your partners, the outcome can be catastrophic. The external processor might feel unheard and unseen and think their internal processor partner doesn't care about them when they are silent. The internal processor might feel berated and attacked by the external processor and think their partner doesn't care about them when they say things they might not mean.

These processing styles are wildly different but no style is better than the other. When you understand your partners processing style, it is easier to give them the space they need to process a conversation and realize it is often not personal. In this podcast we give you the telltale signs to look for to determine your processing style and provide real life examples of how understanding our individual processing style has changed our relationship for the better.

If you want to discover your processing style, build your confidence or develop your self-love, book a free 20 minute call to see if one on one mentoring is for you! https://www.letmeintroduceyourself.com/mentoring